My first installment in this series about stress and your wedding was directed toward your budget and how to prevent the related stress. My guess is another element of your wedding planning that is causing some anxiety is selecting your attendants. There are several things you can consider as you go through this process.
If you are just out of college, you probably have two dozen or more pledge sisters, a big sister, a little sister, plus any high school friends you have stayed in touch with, plus cousins and in-laws. You know that you don't have to pay for those dressses or shoes, but keep in mind that bridesmaids' bouquets can take up a big chunk of your flower budget. Granted, the cost of a boutonniere is pretty insignificant, but if your fiance has selected 10 or 12 groomsmen, at $15-$25 a pop, they can grab a strong hold on that budget also. Gifts for all these attendants must also be included in the budget, plus accommodations if they have to travel. So be budget savvy when selecting your attendants.
Just remember, most of those sorority sisters and in-laws will be at your wedding anyway; you'll be spending the whole evening with them. If you have a problem narrowing down the list, talk to each one you are considering individually. Be honest and ask her, friend to friend, how she feels about being an attendant without putting any pressure on her. It could put a strain on her budget to do it, even though she sincerely wants to be on your list. If you are sincere and understanding in your approach, you will be assured of an honest answer.
Remember, it still goes back to your budget -- your number one stressor.
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